Discovering the Koi Mum Way: 6 Truths About Positive Parenting

In a city where parenting is often shaped by pressure, control, and comparison, the Koi Mum philosophy offers a gentle, compassionate path—rooted in ancient Chinese wisdom and lived through Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien’s personal journey in homeschooling and parenting.

Unlike Tiger Mums who demand perfection or Helicopter Mums who micromanage every step, the Koi Mum flows with her child’s natural rhythm—creating space for joy, growth, and emotional well-being. It’s not just a philosophy; it’s a lived practice that replaces rigid expectations with deep connection and trust.

This nurturing approach is what guided Dr. Lai’s own daughter, Paris, to thrive—gaining admission to university at just 15 years old, not only as a scholar but as a joyful, emotionally resilient young woman.

As a Positive Parenting Consultant and Student Emotional Navigator, Dr. Lai has witnessed the silent struggles of children burdened by stress and self-doubt. From this, she uncovered six powerful truths that can transform how we raise—and relate to—our children.

Stay with us as she unveils six heartfelt truths in poster form, guiding parents toward raising children with strength, joy, and emotional balance.

Let’s raise with love, not pressure. 

Let’s be Koi Mums.

Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien  hsa.hk

Founder, Hong Kong Homeschool Association

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The Waterway Parenting philosophy, the Koi Mum parenting model, and the Hong Kong Educational Pendulum Theory were all originally created by Dr. Lai Mei Kei Vivien and may not be reproduced or adapted without authorization.